Working with Your Ex When You Don’t Want To Be Friends: How To Cope

Working with Your Ex When You Don’t Want To Be Friends: How To Cope

Picture this: After dating your emotionally unavailable coworker, they’ve ended the relationship. I can’t give you what you want; it’s me, not you; I’m not ready for a relationship; I still have feelings for my ex; you knew my situation; I...

11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself

It’s easy to misconstrue stressful habits we’ve normalised, such as our anxiety, guardedness and a tendency to overthink and critique as being signs of conscientiousness. We might think we have strong morals or high standards. The truth is, though, that...

Some Parents Couldn’t Be Who We Needed, and We Need to Forgive Ourselves

There are so many humans struggling due to believing, on some level, that they’re not good enough because of childhood experiences. We misunderstand painful and uncomfortable events, and they become the story of who we are and can be. Regardless of whether we...

Do we really want closure, or are we trying to win at proving we’re a Good Person?

When we’re a people pleaser, perfectionist or overthinker who’s likely been prone to overgiving and over-responsibility, there can be a tendency to want to control endings, including how the other party perceives us. We go through a break-up or have a...

When our friend dates our ex, is it OK, and can we be upset about it?

Humans love to feel in control of the uncontrollable, which, incidentally, is pseudo-control. Comforting, sure, but nonetheless an illusion. Take breakups. We can feel, for all intents and purposes, ‘over’ our ex based on how we see life working out. Who...

Refusing self-forgiveness is just another role you play that blocks happiness

Refusing to forgive yourself is a refusal to take responsibility. Just as punishing a child without a clear understanding of responsibility, the lesson and moving forward is ineffective and cruel, so is deliberately, whether you admit it or not, choosing to make you...