Patterns & Habits Archives

Why do certain people push our buttons?

I hear from a lot of people who don’t understand why being around their family pushes their buttons. They figure that because they’re however-old, or they don’t have these feelings or conflicts in other areas of their life, or they have money,...

Building habits challenges our identity. We’re capable of more than we think.

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

Training for the London Marathon in 2018 revealed stark parallels between the training and going No Contact with an ex. Even though, at the time, I hadn’t done the latter for thirteen years, the same angst and doubt gripped me. I started from scratch with a dose...

Being naive about ‘authority figures’ is a blind spot we need to clear up

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

Sometimes we can be wilfully and even dangerously naive about people we perceive to be authority figures. We decide, for instance, that because of someone’s profession, they always do the right thing. It’s this mistaken belief that authorities always have...

Let your family get on with their own drama

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

Family can be wonderful (lucky you if this is your experience, haha!). If, however, you experienced boundary issues, trauma and neglect, you have to be careful of getting drawn into what basically boils down to bullshit (BS) and drama. Family will play the Guilt Card,...

Doubting that a loving relationship is attainable

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

A pattern of being with emotionally unavailable people can make it challenging to keep the faith that you will enjoy a mutually fulfilling relationship with a loving partner one day. It’s easy to start wondering if the relationship you desire is unattainable. This is...

There’s no need to be ‘baggage-free’ to move forward or have what we want

by NATALIE | Patterns & Habits

So many of us hold ourselves back from changing career, going after what we want or showing up to intimate relationships. For instance, I see people try to achieve the perfect amount of healing before dating again or at all. Others try to get a gazillion degrees or...