Being naive about ‘authority figures’ is a blind spot we need to clear up

Sometimes we can be wilfully and even dangerously naive about people we perceive to be authority figures. We decide, for instance, that because of someone’s profession, they always do the right thing. It’s this mistaken belief that authorities always have...

Let your family get on with their own drama

Family can be wonderful (lucky you if this is your experience, haha!). If, however, you experienced boundary issues, trauma and neglect, you have to be careful of getting drawn into what basically boils down to bullshit (BS) and drama. Family will play the Guilt Card,...

Doubting that a loving relationship is attainable

A pattern of being with emotionally unavailable people can make it challenging to keep the faith that you will enjoy a mutually fulfilling relationship with a loving partner one day. It’s easy to start wondering if the relationship you desire is unattainable. This is...

There’s no need to be ‘baggage-free’ to move forward or have what we want

So many of us hold ourselves back from changing career, going after what we want or showing up to intimate relationships. For instance, I see people try to achieve the perfect amount of healing before dating again or at all. Others try to get a gazillion degrees or...

A few thoughts about gossiping

Don’t kid yourself.  Everyone gossips (or has done at some point), even if it’s just a little or only with close friends. I know we like to think that we’re ‘better’ or squeaky clean, but we’re all human here. We might say that...

Questioning our default stories and fears allows us to ‘update’

For more than twenty years, I wouldn’t eat runny eggs thanks to the whole Edwina Currie salmonella egg scandal that happened in the U.K. when I was ten. I also get very twitchy about someone putting tins in the fridge–kept hearing about how dangerous it...