I have written extensively about the fact that many women 'suffer' with Women Who Talk and Think Too Much syndrome, where we use talking to mask inaction and expend copious amounts of brain power obsessing, analysing, and thinking about what we coulda, woulda, shoulda...
Reading a comment from Veronica on 'How to spot emotionally unavailable men', I felt it was important to address it in a post, because it's a very good insight into the type of negativity that we carry around with us when we are involved with assclowns and Mr...
Judging by the amount of interest in emotionally unavailable men, it is clear that most women have had some experience of being with a guy that blows hot and cold. This inconsistent behaviour means that as long as you're with him, you are thrown into a cycle of...
Consistency is one of the five landmarks of healthy relationships, along with balance, commitment, intimacy, and progression. When you have the landmarks, plus you (and they) endeavour to embody the four qualities of a loving partner, you co-create, forge and sustain...
I started Baggage Reclaim in September 2005, and there are over 1700 blog posts. If you're new to the site, welcome! You might not know where to start, so this page features a selection of popular and super-helpful posts on a variety of topics. And if you're looking...
Whether as an employee or business owner, I’ve been guilty of taking work challenges and setbacks too personally. As a recovering people pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker, I'd learned to associate being good and how much I tried with what I believed "should"...
A pattern of being with emotionally unavailable people can make it challenging to keep the faith that you will enjoy a mutually fulfilling relationship with a loving partner one day. It’s easy to start wondering if the relationship you desire is unattainable. This is...
In this week's episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why some of us wrestle with 'he's just not that into you'. From the 2004 book of the same name and a hilarious episode of Sex and the City, this advice helped us to stop making excuses for...
Pre-internet and social media, to know what your ex or their current partner was up to, you had to become a stalker. You had to be prepared to nose around extensively in their lives, and this was a signpost for recognising obsession. The idea of following someone or...