Often, when we recognise our boundary issues, it’s all-too-easy to start chopping and cutting. We think that distancing ourselves, restricting our circle, maybe calling out the people we believe have taken advantage, is the way to go. But then we tend to second-guess...
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We Need To Talk About Narcissists: 20 Mindset Shifts To Help You Stop Crazy-Making Yourself
One of the reasons why I haven't written directly about narcissists for some time (although I've covered the subject many times from different angles) is because there's an overuse of the term: it can become a catch-all for anyone who behaves badly in a relationship....
Advice Wednesday #5: My Ex & I Are Very Close (Includes Nude Sleepovers)–Why Does He Sleep With Everyone But Me?
The tricky situation: Kim asks, I pined for a Mr Unavailable for months while he let me believe that we were essentially together. Same song, different tune, I know. Fast forward--after things reached a breaking point, we agreed to be friends. So, I worked on me and...
When someone’s imposing something upon you, they’re trying to remove your choice (and overstepping your boundaries)
Over the past few weeks, I've frequently used the terms 'imposing' and 'imposed'. I realised that you always know that there's a major breach of boundaries and that you're dealing with somebody who just doesn't gel on the core values front when they introduce...
Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup
Going through a breakup can be tough. It can leave you feeling restless and struggling to fill the white space left behind by the relationship. You experience a myriad of emotions, and sometimes, you feel guilty or even blame yourself for why the relationship ended....
Narcissistic Harem’s In A Nutshell – Why it’s time to stop envying the ex and various hanger-on’s
Many a reader has been left perplexed and even feeling rejected because they're not treated 'as good' as a partner's ex or their various hangers-on's that stroke their ego. In turn, they end up devoting their energy to seeking a rather unusual validation that actually...
Relationship Advice: How do I forgive my narcissist ex and my friend for flirting and the private dance?
Angela asks "About a year ago, I went with my emotionally unavailable, narcissist ex, whom I was so deeply in love with, to see my "best friend" of about 6 years. She was graduating with her degree and exhibiting her work, so I went to see her, asking him to come...
Relationship Advice: He’s abusive and possibly a narcissist but I love him. Will he change?
Steph recently contacted me with regards to her ex boyfriend. They broke up more than six months ago but she can’t get over it. Like the typical Mr Unavailable, there was an amazing first month and then he seemed to transform into a bit of a nightmare.
He could be verbally abusive, flying into rages, lying, suddenly only having time for partying with his friends, abusing alcohol and drugs, and even occasional physical attacks on his friends (yeah I know, this guy is a real catch!). He even claims that he owns the town and can make her life hell, which may go beyond the usual ‘narcissistic tendencies’ I associate with typical Mr Unavallable’s.
Steph blames herself for the end of their relationship and rationalises his behaviour with the belief that “nobody is perfect”.
Are Emotionally Unavailable Men Narcissists?
What's the difference between an emotionally unavailable man and a narcissist? A thin line and someone defining it, but there is a line there nonetheless. Since I published my book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, which focuses on the behaviour of emotionally...