Creating Healthier Boundaries Lets You Move On and Forgive Yourself

Forgiveness isn’t about ‘condoning’ what happened. It’s not an easy pass, complacency or letting ourselves or someone else off the hook, as if to say the alternative is punishment or suitable atonement. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness doesn’t equate to...

Why We Feel Shaken and Like We Did a Bad Thing After Asserting Ourselves

It’s not uncommon, especially when you’re new to creating healthier boundaries through being more honest about who you are, including expressing limits, saying no, or articulating what you need, want and expect, to feel shaken by your assertiveness. You might...

Uncovering Hidden Anger is Good for Our Self-Worth and Intimate Relationships

Here are examples of experiences that cause low self-worth, loneliness, and hidden anger:  Forcing yourself to forget about certain feelings and then forgetting you forgot them. Due to being pushed to your limit by later experiences, the buried feelings poke at you,...

Podcast Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing

In the final 2022 episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share a deleted chapter from my forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want. Originally titled Gone Girl, Tiger Woods,...
To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

When a significant relationship ends, or even when you step away from a job or career that you thought was ‘it’, you grieve the loss. Even though you may be aware that the relationship/marriage/job/career wasn’t working and all of the reasons why, you can still wind...