Beware Being An Emotional Dumpster or Airbag and Know Your Limits

When we pride ourselves on being kind, generous, supportive and giving, it often feels necessary to ‘be there’ for others. It then feels super confusing when we feel overloaded, resentful, exhausted and the like.We might become convinced that we’re a Bad Person....

Stress Carries Messages that Help Us Take Care of Our Body and Life

Noticing how you’re feeling, thinking and acting is a vital component of increasing self-awareness about what adds to or detracts from your sense of self. Something I’ve learned from years of going to acupuncture is that pain-wise, unless we’ve literally just directly...

Self-care: Feel Better About Yourself with a “What I Did Today” List

A major source of frustration that saps motivation and drains our confidence is thinking about everything we believe we need to do. We can wind up in a near-constant state of, “Jaysus! I haven’t done enough!”. All the while, we’re not acknowledging and internalising...

Overcommitting and our fear of missing out or being labelled antisocial

One of the pitfalls of the modern age is our habit of overcommitting ourselves. This is where we oblige ourselves to do more than we’re capable of. We might promise out too much of our bandwidth, stuff our schedule, and say yes to responsibilities and...

If you weren’t super busy or overwhelmed, would your ‘no’ change to a ‘yes’?

One of my favourite ways of saying no as a means of respecting myself and honouring my values is “I don’t have the bandwidth.” In that moment, I acknowledge my existing commitments and needs. I only have so much time, energy and effort. These have an...