Creating Healthier Boundaries Lets You Move On and Forgive Yourself

Forgiveness isn’t about ‘condoning’ what happened. It’s not an easy pass, complacency or letting ourselves or someone else off the hook, as if to say the alternative is punishment or suitable atonement. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness doesn’t equate to...

Problematic and Non-Apologies: Why We’re Still Upset Despite Receiving An Apology

When someone harms or upsets us and they then apologise, it’s easy to assume that’s the end of it. Problem solved. Let’s move on. We’ve learned that getting an apology is what matters. So when we sometimes feel more hurt and upset after...
Working with Your Ex When You Don’t Want To Be Friends: How To Cope

Working with Your Ex When You Don’t Want To Be Friends: How To Cope

Picture this: After dating your emotionally unavailable coworker, they’ve ended the relationship. I can’t give you what you want; it’s me, not you; I’m not ready for a relationship; I still have feelings for my ex; you knew my situation; I...

11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself

It’s easy to misconstrue stressful habits we’ve normalised, such as our anxiety, guardedness and a tendency to overthink and critique as being signs of conscientiousness. We might think we have strong morals or high standards. The truth is, though, that...

Some Parents Couldn’t Be Who We Needed, and We Need to Forgive Ourselves

There are so many humans struggling due to believing, on some level, that they’re not good enough because of childhood experiences. We misunderstand painful and uncomfortable events, and they become the story of who we are and can be. Regardless of whether we...