‘Keeping the Peace’ Just Might Be Hurting Your Emotional Wellbeing

Many people who don’t have self-esteem that they can rely on often consider themselves to be keepers of the peace. There’s just one not-so-small problem: their actions destroy their inner peace. Keeping the peace is often code for keeping it zipped when you want to...

We Need to Be Investors, Not Bailiffs, In Our Relationships

Relationships are an investment. They involve an element of risk, and you don’t recoup your investment costs — time, energy, effort and emotion (your bandwidth). Investing ourselves into our relationships and priorities is the cost of getting involved, so we...

Our Intimate Relationships Require More Honesty and Emotional Availability

Mutually fulfilling relationships take the consistent honesty of being emotionally available. Intimacy happens when two people have gotten over the pretence that they’re perfect and have stopped being afraid that they will experience rejection or abandonment if...

Our Intimate Relationships Require Us To Commit To Showing Up

Without commitment, a relationship has no purpose or direction. It’s just floating, possibly with one person trying to row the relationship boat with one oar hoping the other will feel inspired to catch up and commit. Commitment is a decision made up of much smaller...

For Our Relationships to Be Intimate and Fulfilling, They Need Progress

Progression is one of the five landmarks of healthy relationships, along with balance, commitment, consistency, and intimacy. When you have the landmarks, plus you each endeavour to embody the four qualities of a loving partner, you co-create, forge and...

You Can Move From Codependence to Interdependence for Healthier, Intimate Relationships

Being involved with emotionally unavailable people or with shady folks are examples of codependent relationships. You might feel excessively emotionally responsible for others and find it difficult to have boundaries, often seeing relationships as the definition of...