Healthy Boundaries in Supporting a Partner’s Mental Health

Supporting a partner who’s struggling with their mental health without becoming anxious, depressed or low ourselves is possible, but it does take clear boundaries and self-care. We can care for our partner as well as for ourselves. ‘Support’ doesn’t mean ‘be the...

You Can Move From Codependence to Interdependence for Healthier, Intimate Relationships

Being involved with emotionally unavailable people or with shady folks are examples of codependent relationships. You might feel excessively emotionally responsible for others and find it difficult to have boundaries, often seeing relationships as the definition of...

Healthy, Loving, Intimate Relationships Feature the Landmark of Balance

Balance is one of the five landmarks of healthy relationships, along with commitment, consistency, intimacy, and progression. When you have the landmarks plus you (and they) endeavour to embody the four qualities of a loving partner, you co-create, forge and sustain a...

Guilt and Why There’s No Need to Be the Over-Responsible ‘Bad Guy’

If, as a child, you were given (or assumed) responsibility for others’ feelings and behaviour, you may ‘over-feel’, leading to painful codependent relationships. You won’t know where you end and others begin because you feel excessively emotionally responsible...

Self-Awareness Trumps Projection for More Intimate, Loving Relationships

If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship well past its sell-by date or kept trying to return and then felt aggrieved about how the other party hurt you and didn’t change, you’ve taken what you did and labelled it as something they were doing to you. This isn’t to say...