About dating when you want children

I hear from so many women who fear misrepresenting their desire to have children but also don’t want to waste time. They feel as if they’re in a conundrum: ‘Scare off’ potential prospects or settle for less. Say their age, and the person might...

Online dating and the fear of ‘ruling people out’

One of the challenges of online dating is knowing when to proceed or cut something short. Spend enough time using dating apps and sites and we’re likely to notice a pattern to the interactions that don’t work or that set off an icky feeling. What I see...

The trouble with blending in

The moment that we seek to blend in or to appeal to the other party in an effort to be who we imagine would be the ‘right’ person for them, we’ve just blocked a loving relationship. Something we forget when we discard who we are is that by blending in to be like...

Tips: How to Break up With a Lovely Person

Newsflash: Lovely, nice, sweet, fantastic, considered-wonderful-by-society’s-standards people have breakups. Far too many people, though, behave as if only “bad” people should get dumped or have their feelings unreciprocated. There’s also this sense of it...