The Power of Saying “Yes” and “No”: More Authenticity Creates Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries give us a sense of self, allow us to meet our (and other people’s) needs healthily, and encourage us to treat and be treated with love, care, trust and respect in the process of doing so. Often mistaken for telling people what to do or opportunities to “get...

‘Getting Along’ Plus Compatibility Equals Intimate, Loving Relationships

The things we do to have harmonious and friendly relationships with others so that we can be happy and get what we want from life is ‘getting along’. It’s how we attempt to meet our emotional needs, which include safety and security, intimacy, connection, and status,...

Self-Awareness Trumps Projection for More Intimate, Loving Relationships

If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship well past its sell-by date or kept trying to return and then felt aggrieved about how the other party hurt you and didn’t change, you’ve taken what you did and labelled it as something they were doing to you. This isn’t to say...
Podcast Ep. 270: Unhealthy Relationships and Knowing When To Fold

Podcast Ep. 270: Unhealthy Relationships and Knowing When To Fold

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about unhealthy and unhealthy relationships and knowing when to fold even though we might feel very invested. What stops us from stepping away? How does focusing on good points and good times create...

Feeling Our Feelings Is the Path to Increasing Emotional Intelligence

I’m often asked about how one goes about increasing their emotional intelligence. In short, it’s by allowing ourselves to feel our feelings and cultivate healthier boundaries that allow us to understand what our feelings are telling us. From there, we can...