11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself

It’s easy to misconstrue stressful habits we’ve normalised, such as our anxiety, guardedness and a tendency to overthink and critique as being signs of conscientiousness. We might think we have strong morals or high standards. The truth is, though, that...

Podcast Ep. 250: We Will Be Changed By The Things We Do (and that’s okay)

In this two-hundred-and-fiftieth (!!!) episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share some of the lessons I’ve learned about change and evolution as a result of making the show. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android 5...

Podcast Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?

Over the sixteen-plus years of writing this blog, one of my most frequently asked questions is ‘How do you know if the person you’re dating is emotionally available?’ Keen to avoid being hurt and disappointed by Yet Another Person Who Isn’t Ready For Commitment or...

We experience anxiety for ‘no reason’ when we rationalise, minimise and ignore ourselves

When Ami* got in touch with me, she’d been experiencing anxiety in her year-long relationship pretty much the entire time. At first, she put it down to new relationship jitters and not being used to dating “such a nice guy”. After a while, she blamed...

Refusing self-forgiveness is just another role you play that blocks happiness

Refusing to forgive yourself is a refusal to take responsibility. Just as punishing a child without a clear understanding of responsibility, the lesson and moving forward is ineffective and cruel, so is deliberately, whether you admit it or not, choosing to make you...