Podcast Ep. 259: Let’s Talk About Overgiving and Overcompensating in Our Relationships

Feel routinely underappreciated and taken advantage of despite how much you give and do? This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast is for you. Overgiving is where you exploit yourself through the guise of giving to make yourself feel...

Why Some People Call You “Needy” Even When It’s the First Time You’re Speaking Up

Few things wound, offend and confuse us, like being called “needy”, particularly when we typically avoid expressing our needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions as a rule. It’s like, So let me get this right. I avoid saying no and pulling you up on things...

The “give and take” of relationships needs more intimacy and boundaries

Growing up, I often heard the advice “Relationships are about give and take”. Years on, and after hearing thousands of stories, I’ve realised that we’ve taken this too literally. It’s as if we think that one person exists to give and the...

Podcast Ep. 234: *Sometimes* We’re Controlling in Our Relationships

I’m back following my summer break! In this episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain common scenarios where we don’t realise that we’re trying to be in control. Like when we take over in our relationships, play rescuer, or choose...

Is It That Work Doesn’t Allow You to Have Boundaries or That *You* Don’t?

If you struggle with saying no, expressing your limits and knowing your responsibilities at work, it’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself. Is it that you can’t say no or that you’ve never said no in the first place? Is it that you can’t say that...