From Emotional Shutdown to Self-Compassion: My Self-Care Evolution

Over the last two decades, I’ve learned to pay attention to signs from my body and my life that I need attention and/or that I need to ask for or seek additional help and support from safe sources. This attitude is a dramatic shift for me because for the 28 years...

When Comfort Becomes a Trap: Rethinking How We Soothe Our Emotional Discomfort

Feeling worse when you experience the onset of certain emotions or feeling as if you’re trying to anaesthetize feelings you’re attempting to repress, or feeling at a loss as to what to do when you need comfort and support, means that, like many of us, you haven’t...

Consistent Self-Care Adds Up to Self-Esteem

Many people resist learning to take care of themselves due to finding it daunting. They’re afraid of the work required to move from where they are now to what they want. They fear it will be “too much” or take “too long”, leading to attempts at taking shortcuts or...

Podcast Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It’s a ‘Blessing in Disguise’

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how, while gratitude, an appreciation for what we have or what something gave us despite the painfulness of it, is undoubtedly important, we also need to be able to acknowledge our...

Our stress and anxiety can help us recognise our lack of self-care

Several years back, on the eve of a conference where I was due to be the closing keynote speaker, I became gripped by panic and comparison. Shrinking in my seat, I felt as if I was going to be violently ill. Thanks to the layout of the hall though, I couldn’t sneak...