Podcast Ep. 212: People Can Be More Than One Thing

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why seeing people, including ourselves, as only one thing is a trap. It causes us to deny, rationalise, minimise, excuse, assume and generalise and this always leads to big problems. Subscribe...

Jumping into relationships and belatedly realising commitment is involved

Being on the receiving end of not just someone’s intense interest in and attraction to us, but their seeming desire to jump into a relationship, can be pretty intoxicating. The intensity creates this romance of false intimacy, and we think we’ve jumped into a fairy...
Why They’re Still Emotionally Unavailable Despite How Much You Tried

Why They’re Still Emotionally Unavailable Despite How Much You Tried

In my first book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, I talk about the self-blame someone’s emotional unavailability can trigger. “Many readers [of Baggage Reclaim] believe their situation is unique and that the strange relationship that they’ve found...

This is why not letting go of the wrong relationship blocks our happiness and growth

What if part of our growth, happiness and healing (and that of others), is letting go when a relationship stands in the way of this? How differently would we view breakups or recognising incompatibility? All too often, we tend to internalise the letting go of a...

Podcast Ep. 179: Better The Devil You Know?

When an ex who didn’t treat us with love, care, trust and respect starts saying ‘all the right things’, it’s all-too-easy to be nostalgic. Next thing, we’re plotting our fairy-tale ending and possibly sacking off new relationships,...