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About ‘going with the flow’

By On May 6, 2013 · 104 Comments

I’ve been on a few trips with people where one or both of us have suggested that we ‘go with the flow’ instead of making firm plans. I found that we were either on the same page and had a great time or… it turned out to be a clash of [...]

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The Quality of Our Relationships *Matter*. Forget Forced, Go Organic

By On January 4, 2013 · 156 Comments

The quality of our relationships romantic and otherwise matter. A lot of the issues that we come up against when we struggle with dating and forging healthy relationships are rooted in essentially attempting to create ‘quality’ relationships even though we’re not involved in a healthy partnering, whether it’s down to incompatible [...]

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Indecision About You Isn’t Sexy Or Acceptable

By On November 9, 2012 · 328 Comments

If you’ve ever been with someone who blows hot and cold by one day professing their love for you and talking about the future to the next day getting cold feet and saying “I don’t want to hurt you” or even ‘going dark’, you’ll know [...]

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Why There’s No Point Being With Somebody Who Blows Hot & Cold

By On August 3, 2012 · 331 Comments

Up until I had my epiphany seven years ago, about unavailable relationships and in particular my own unavailability, I was convinced that I had a special skill that made available men unavailable. In my mind, I would get involved with someone, incidentally who I probably didn’t even like that much, and they [...]

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Actions Matching Words in a Nutshell: If You Haven’t Got a Match, You Haven’t Got a Healthy Relationship But You Do Have Problems

By On October 14, 2011 · 197 Comments

I see so many people practically getting a Ph.d in investigating what someone said but didn’t back up with words, or investing themselves in something that looks like a relationship but the other party has said things to the contrary, that I [...]

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