When Old Coping Mechanisms Become Today’s Roadblock to Love

Whatever you’ve been doing to ‘get’ love or to avoid what you’re afraid of, it’s based on you having come up with a set of conditions for being ‘OK’. You’ve imposed these rules and obligations upon yourself as a form of self-protection. On some level, you figured that...

Podcast Ep. 243: Revisited-What’s the baggage behind it?

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I revisit the question that’s central to reclaiming ourselves: what’s the baggage behind it? I share how I learned to stop taking responsibility for other people’s baggage and how that led me to learn how to...

Building habits challenges our identity. We’re capable of more than we think.

Training for the London Marathon in 2018 revealed stark parallels between the training and going No Contact with an ex. Even though, at the time, I hadn’t done the latter for thirteen years, the same angst and doubt gripped me. I started from scratch with a dose...

Podcast Ep. 233: Eek, Am I Doing Self-Care Wrong?

If you identify with habits like people pleasing, perfectionism, overthinking, overgiving and over-responsibility, odds are you’ve found self-care challenging at times. You might feel as if you’re ‘behind’, that you have to get it ‘right’ if you want to...

Podcast Ep. 230: Why you’re still having thoughts about that certain someone or thing

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep thinking about someone or something even though you think you should be moved on by now, this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is for you. It’s not necessarily that you, for instance, want to get...