Our Codependency isn’t to Blame for Our Partner’s Emotional Unavailability

Maggie decided to attend therapy after her relationship ended due to what she defined as her “codependent behaviour”. Within weeks of beginning her sessions, she reconciled with her emotionally unavailable partner. The understanding between them became that any issues...

Podcast Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else’s Fear (even when you don’t ‘get’ it)

Even though we might consider ourselves to be empathetic, sometimes how we respond when other people express their fears is dismissive, judgemental and oversteps boundaries. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain we sometimes struggle...

Podcast Ep. 222: They’re just not that into you?

In this week’s episode of  The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why some of us wrestle with ‘he’s just not that into you’. From the 2004 book of the same name and a hilarious episode of Sex and the City, this advice helped us to stop...

They say you’re a ‘couple’, so why doesn’t it feel like that?

In dating, there’s often this intense focus, a goal, of getting the other party to say something that makes it clear that we’re in a relationship. We want to define the relationship so that we can know what to expect. Hell, we want to know that we’ve...
Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

I hear from so many people who have an ex they ‘randomly’ hear from out of the blue, typically via email or text. And these exes range from people they went on barely a handful of dates with, to people they dated but who didn’t feel ready for a...