Boundaried Breakups Archives

11 Signs You’re in the Wrong Relationship and That It’s Time to Break Up

Knowing if we’re in the right relationship or whether what we’re experiencing signals that it’s time to break up is something so many of us struggle with. As difficult as this is, if we don’t know when to leave, we won’t know when...

Does falling off the No Contact wagon mean starting over from scratch?

by NATALIE | Boundaried Breakups

You made the decision to go No Contact after your breakup. Whether it was because the relationship was unhealthy or because you were struggling to cope without clear boundaries and self-care, No Contact was necessary. And for a time, you managed to keep your distance...

Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

by NATALIE | Boundaried Breakups

I hear from so many people who have an ex they ‘randomly’ hear from out of the blue, typically via email or text. And these exes range from people they went on barely a handful of dates with, to people they dated but who didn’t feel ready for a...

Tips: How to Break up With a Lovely Person

by NATALIE | Boundaried Breakups

Newsflash: Lovely, nice, sweet, fantastic, considered-wonderful-by-society’s-standards people have breakups. Far too many people, though, behave as if only “bad” people should get dumped or have their feelings unreciprocated. There’s also this sense of it...

We don’t want to do the hard thing, but we do want the freedom it offers

by NATALIE | Boundaried Breakups

No one really wants to go No Contact. They don’t. It’s why when we’re post-breakup and struggling to get over them or hurting from continued disrespect, mind games, mixed messages or just the realisation that it’s not possible to be friends at this...

Blindsided With a Breakup: What to Do When You Can’t Get Answers

by NATALIE | Boundaried Breakups

Have you been blindsided with a breakup? It’s difficult enough when you sense or know that the end is nigh for your relationship. Maybe the writing’s on the wall because of the way they are behaving. Perhaps it’s because you’ve both tried to...