‘Keeping the Peace’ Just Might Be Hurting Your Emotional Wellbeing

Many people who don’t have self-esteem that they can rely on often consider themselves to be keepers of the peace. There’s just one not-so-small problem: their actions destroy their inner peace. Keeping the peace is often code for keeping it zipped when you want to...

Beyond Who’s Right and Winning: Building Respect in Love

For respect to happen in practice within intimate (romantic) relationships, we need healthy boundaries. Each partner has to know where they end and the other begins.The true test of a relationship is how it handles boundaries, intimacy and reality, including the wider...
Boundaries and Why You Need to Watch Out for “Well-Meaning” People

Boundaries and Why You Need to Watch Out for “Well-Meaning” People

The more I talk to people about healthy boundaries, the more I see that many of us humans are hung up on being perceived as well-meaning. So we avoid creating healthy boundaries that we think will make us look bad. We also wrestle with ourselves about conveying our...
Circular Disagreements and Why We Need to Stop Hoarding Our Resentments

Circular Disagreements and Why We Need to Stop Hoarding Our Resentments

Thanks to Marie Kondo, ridding ourselves of anything that we don’t truly need or that doesn’t “spark joy” is something millions of people have attempted. Most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of being a hoarder. It conjures up all sorts of imagery. Yet, we don’t...

Podcast Ep. 265: The Trouble With the Not-That-Innocent Good Girl/Guy

Have you ever wondered why some people are automatically assumed to be good, easygoing and innocent, and others are assumed to be bad,  difficult or misunderstanding a Good Person? Or perhaps you’ve felt perplexed by microaggressions from someone everyone sees in...