Disappointment From Unmet Expectations is a Much-Needed Wake-Up Call

Each time you base your self-image, self-esteem and every thought, feeling, need, desire or expectation on the premise that you’re responsible for other people’s feelings and behaviour, you give away your power. How much room you have in your life for...

Putting people on pedestals doesn’t give us the right to ‘compensation’

While working on the recent podcast episode about thinking that someone might be too good to be true, the issue of putting people on pedestals came up. This is where we elevate people to this glorified status by exaggerating who they are or, yes, by diminishing...

Repeats of painful situations invite us to learn what we didn’t before

Finding ourselves in repeats of the same situation can be infuriating and demotivating. We start to wonder if we’re Jedi mind tricking people and life into letting us down. We hear that old adage that life keeps serving the same lessons until we heed them, but...

Podcast Ep. 179: Better The Devil You Know?

When an ex who didn’t treat us with love, care, trust and respect starts saying ‘all the right things’, it’s all-too-easy to be nostalgic. Next thing, we’re plotting our fairy-tale ending and possibly sacking off new relationships,...

Podcast Ep. 166: We’ve Got To Stop Pumping People Up With Our Great Expectations

As I pondered discussing the topic of practices we can adopt to change the course of our relationships and life experiences, I stumbled into an important realisation about expectations: Sometimes people want us to continue to have the same expectations of them even...