The most cliche and obnoxious examples of PPMW (Poor Pathetic Me Whine) routinely come from married men. Married men are like a dating plague. They’re on dating sites, they’re at bars, they’re on blogs, and they’re preying on single women. If I had a dime for every time a married man approached me and claimed that his wife, or his recently separated (yeah, right) wife wouldn’t sleep with him, I’d be able to buy and sell Richard Branson ten times over.
Generally, upon further investigation, not only are the wives regularly having sex with these guys, but also they have no idea that anything in their marriage is amiss.
These are generally men who are getting drunk at bars after work, or who are staying late in the office after hours spending their time chatting up women on-line. Maybe if they went home at night to their families instead of staying out and trying to pick up women, their wives would have more interest in them. My favourite response to married men when they whine that their wives won’t fuck them is, If your wife doesn’t want to fuck you, why should I? How is it supposed to be attractive to me that a woman who took an oath to sleep with some guy until death do they part, is averse to touching him? The fact that the person in the world who knows him better than anyone doesn’t want to be intimate with him is a huge red flag in my book.
And that brings me around to the question with which I left off last week.
Why are men to be pitied for not getting sex, or not getting enough sex, or for not getting good enough sex, or for not having all of their fantasies fulfilled?
Why should women feel sorry for men if their wives or girlfriends are not sleeping with them? Lack of sex doesn’t kill you nor does it cause illness. Why can’t they just try to work on the relationship with their significant other and jerk off in the meantime?
When married men use PPMW to try to get laid, I suspect that they’re either trying to appeal to a woman’s nurturing nature – as in looking for a response like, Oh poor you, I’ll take care of you, I’ll fuck you to make you feel better. Or they’re trying to appeal to a woman’s competitive nature-looking for this kind of response, Oh, your wife won’t fuck you? Well, I sure will and I’m sure I can suck cock better than she can. For whatever reason they’re doing it, it’s appalling.
Are men going to stop using PPMW? Not until it no longer works. As long as women continue to eat up this bullshit and fall for the PPMW, men will continue to use it in their pathetic efforts to get pussy.
Which leads me into next week’s topic.
How women are responsible for helping to perpetuate this kind of selfish and obnoxious and pathetic behaviour by the not so fair sex.
About the author: After receiving a nice, wholesome upbringing in a typical Midwestern town of the US, this intelligent, witty, and frequently snarky chick, craving adventure, managed to receive her first real-world instruction on the streets of Paris. After that eye opening and somewhat harrowing experience, on a whim, she moved to The Big Apple where she was permanently corrupted. She’s an armchair psychologist and enjoys analyzing herself and others, while maintaining a deep appreciation for the ironies of life.
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