House hunting has reminded me of my last post, Appearance isn't the same as worth. Each day we look at properties on the likes of Rightmove and Zoopla. We're immersed in photos, floorplans and descriptions, some that are well written and others that don't do the house...
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Those Who Doth Protest Too Much: Stop ‘advertising’ and just ‘be’
Over the years I've had the privilege of having many people tell me about the person they're in a relationship with and I've noticed, that when things aren't that great, or aren't actually as great as they're making out, they go to great lengths to emphasise certain...
Stop Explaining. Stop Justifying. Stop Talking. Boundaries are Upheld With Action
Over the past few years, I've gone to great lengths to explain the importance of boundaries, something that all people who have low self-esteem and who put up with inappropriate or downright shady behaviour have little or none of. Boundaries are basically your limits...
Overused Word Alert: Let’s Talk About Being ‘Needy’
One of the words that gets bandied around and misused a lot in dating and relationships is 'needy'. "The reason why my relationships haven't worked out is because I must be needy." "I scare people off because I think I'm too needy." "I would have been a better person...
It’s Just Cake: Why you should be careful of reading too much into things
I used to go into tailspins over various situations, other people's behaviour, and of course second guessing my own actions and going down the If Only I Could've... train of thought. I have put in some serious 'man hours' crunching the data of these various dramas and...
Quiz: How much of a Blame Absorber are you in relationships?
Following on from last weeks quiz about what makes you interested or disinterested, this weeks quiz is all about whether you centre yourself too much in other people's actions and thoughts causing you to be a 'Blame Absorber', someone who finds a way to soak up any...
Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 3): Let’s talk about mothers
Over the last couple of posts, I've explained how and why we can end up dating emotionally unavailable reflections of our parents. In part two, I explained how we can essentially end up carrying an image of the type of father we wanted and looking for men to meet...
Why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who are like our parents (part 2): Let’s talk about fathers
In part one, I talked about my personal experience of dating men who were reflections of my father (and stepfather). A difficult subject, it's something, however, that I knew I must talk about. We often don't realise how the relationship with our father affects our...
Myth: There Are No Good Men to Date (The one where we talk about the diminishing pool of older guys) Part 3
So the 'there are no good men to date' trip continues and after exploring having negative beliefs in part one and the whole conundrum of online dating in part two, it's time to deal with the whole issue of being attracted to the guys that are not attracted to you,...