Pretending to Be Something You’re Not Won’t Win You a Relationship

When you pretend to be something you’re not, doing things not because they reflect who you are but because it’s what you’ve always done, what you think is expected, or what you believe will ‘get’ you love or help you avoid negative outcomes, you are playing a role....

Feeling Your Feelings is Key to Breaking the Cycle of Codependency

Our feelings are instinctive responses that represent our emotional state. They provide clues about what we need to be and do for ourselves. Part of what causes us to feel unhappy, confused, frustrated, lost, and triggered, to name but a few, is being disconnected...

Breaking Free from Love’s Rule Book: Embracing Authentic Relationships

If meeting a partner with whom you can co-create a mutually fulfilling, loving relationship or nurturing and growing an existing relationship is high on your priorities, it’s time to throw out your internal rule book. It’s time to become conscious of any external...

Why There’s No ‘Easy Cook’ Recipe for Real Relationships

Over almost two decades of writing about dating and relationships, I’ve observed time and again in people’s questions and anxiety that what many of us would love is step-by-step instructions for how to go from single to long-term relationship. Ideally, we’d also...

Podcast Ep. 266: Do More ‘Reps’ of Being Yourself

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about the importance of representing yourself—showing up, speaking up and stepping up for who you really are. If we’re not authentically representing ourselves, people don’t have a...