Healthy Boundaries Are as Much for You as They Are for Everyone Else

One of the mistakes many make in trying to have boundaries is seeing them solely as a means of guiding and directing or even ruling others. Boundaries are for us first and foremost. Others know our line when we know it. If someone isn’t being boundaried, continuing to...

Pretending to Be Something You’re Not Won’t Win You a Relationship

When you pretend to be something you’re not, doing things not because they reflect who you are but because it’s what you’ve always done, what you think is expected, or what you believe will ‘get’ you love or help you avoid negative outcomes, you are playing a role....

Podcast Ep. 258: It’s Not Our Job to Meet Our Parents’ Expectations

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast, I talk about those annoying and hurtful comments that our parents make about us and our life choices that leave us believing that we are a disappointment. I delve into some of the ways our parents’...

Podcast Ep. 237: ‘Mutual’ Is a Mentality

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about the importance of entering into relationships and situations with a mutual mentality. I delve into what a ‘mutual relationship’ means, why power imbalances and not being yourself indicate...
Protecting a loved one from the wrong crowd

Protecting a loved one from the wrong crowd

While doing a big sort-through of Things I Always Intended To Publish, I found this note (and my response). It delves into what can often seem like the blurred lines between help and support. My son is in substance abuse recovery. He’s always picking the wrong...