The Trouble with Pretending You’re Okay with Something When You’re Not

Often, when clients, readers and listeners share stories with me, there’s an element of emphasising that they’re okay with something. ‘I’m okay with [their partner] being friends with [person who’s bothering them].’; ‘I don’t mind that he has female friends.’; ‘I...

The Power of Saying “Yes” and “No”: More Authenticity Creates Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries give us a sense of self, allow us to meet our (and other people’s) needs healthily, and encourage us to treat and be treated with love, care, trust and respect in the process of doing so. Often mistaken for telling people what to do or opportunities to “get...

Podcast Ep. 266: Do More ‘Reps’ of Being Yourself

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about the importance of representing yourself—showing up, speaking up and stepping up for who you really are. If we’re not authentically representing ourselves, people don’t have a...

Podcast Ep. 263: Some People Might Miss the Point of That Statement You’re Trying to Make

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about how we drop hints about our discontent with someone or something by making a statement without using words. I share common examples and explain how people, more often than not, don’t even get...

We Don’t Need the Perfect Reaction to Our Upset but a Pause Helps

Far too many people pressure themselves to speak on something perfectly and immediately. They want to get fired up and know exactly what to say or do straight away. When they don’t, they beat themselves up afterwards for not having the perfect words or addressing...