Self-care: Feel Better About Yourself with a “What I Did Today” List

A major source of frustration that saps motivation and drains our confidence is thinking about everything we believe we need to do. We can wind up in a near-constant state of, “Jaysus! I haven’t done enough!”. All the while, we’re not acknowledging and internalising...

Stop Using Perfectionism to Keep Shifting the Goalposts on Your Self-Esteem

One thing you’re not aware of when you have excessively high standards and, as a result, are pulling down your self-esteem is that you’re not distinguishing between not good enough, good enough, and perfect, hence why you rarely register your progress.When you are on...

Perfectionism Makes Us Feel Unworthy and Blocks Loving Relationships

Perfectionism, the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection, is soul-destroying and debilitating, sucking the joy out of everything from our work to our creative endeavours to our relationships. There are over eight billion people on the planet, and not one...

Podcast Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share a big decision I’ve made about Baggage Reclaim and the podcast. You don’t have to hate something to stop. You can love something and also recognise that you need or want to do...

Why We Don’t Leave Painful and Sucky Situations: It’s Due to People Pleasing

Something many of us find baffling is painful, sucky, one-sided relationships that, despite resenting our mistreatment by the other party, we find it challenging to create healthier boundaries and distance and/or cut ties. It’s all too easy to judge ourselves...