Living With Excessive Fear Blocks Love, Care, Trust and Respect

Fear plays a crucial role in alerting us to situations where self-care is necessary. Notifying you of a possible threat, it blocks love when you don’t distinguish between real and imagined threats or between past and present experiences and...

11 Signs You’re Withholding Self-Forgiveness and Being Super Hard on Yourself

It’s easy to misconstrue stressful habits we’ve normalised, such as our anxiety, guardedness and a tendency to overthink and critique as being signs of conscientiousness. We might think we have strong morals or high standards. The truth is, though, that...

Podcast Ep. 250: We Will Be Changed By The Things We Do (and that’s okay)

In this two-hundred-and-fiftieth (!!!) episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share some of the lessons I’ve learned about change and evolution as a result of making the show. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android 5...

Podcast Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?

Over the sixteen-plus years of writing this blog, one of my most frequently asked questions is ‘How do you know if the person you’re dating is emotionally available?’ Keen to avoid being hurt and disappointed by Yet Another Person Who Isn’t Ready For Commitment or...

Anxiety won’t disappear entirely, but we also don’t need so much certainty

Thanks to being socialised to disassociate from our bodies, we assume that if we buy, be, do or have the ‘right’ things then we will feel OK. We expect that we ‘shouldn’t’ feel anxious. And we also expect to be sure of ourselves all the...