It helps a great deal when we do things because we want to

A crucial aspect of changing our relationship with no and boundaries is recognising where we do things from a place of obligation instead of desire. Much of what drives people-pleasing habits is a misplaced belief that we have to do what we do. As a result,...

How To Say No To Festive Invites

It’s not uncommon during the festive season for this idea that we’re rejecting a person by saying no to take hold. Or, we think that because it’s the festive season that we’re supposed to do everything and feel a particular way. We then...
How to Deal With Feeling Obliged During the Festive Season

How to Deal With Feeling Obliged During the Festive Season

Have you felt conflicted about some of the requests you’re dealing with this month due to the season’s festivities? If so, it’s likely due in part to the struggle of that people-pleaser part of you that struggles to discern what’s fair and...

Podcast Ep. 205: Four steps to help you have an assertive response when you recognise that you don’t want to do something

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is about how to be more assertive in those instances where you recognise that you don’t want to do a request or what’s expected. Thanks to the events of the last few months, I haven’t seen my...

Podcast Ep 192: I Guilt You So Much!

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how so many of us have got into a cycle of feeling bad about ourselves. Guilt has become the currency of our relationships, and it’s bankrupting our self-esteem to keep doing...