The Truth Is, No One Needs You to Be Problemless and Always Happy

On the surface, striving to please others and acting happier than you feel, doesn’t seem problematic. They feel like noble acts that prioritise making others feel good. It feels like you’re always ‘on’ and ready to please. By centering everyone else’s needs,...

It’s not someone else’s ‘job’ to make us happy

If we make it someone else’s job to make us happy, we assign them a role, and with that comes obligations, expectations and responsibilities. It also creates a transactional aspect. If we think it’s someone else’s job to create feelings in us,...

Podcast Ep. 194: The Self-Sabotage of Overgiving, Over-Responsibility, People Pleasing, Perfectionism and Overthinking

Self-sabotage is consciously and unconsciously being and doing things (or not) that stop us from reaching our goals, meeting our needs or being happy. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why overgiving, being...
Podcast Ep. 76: Curtailing Happiness?, Over-Apologising, Should I Tell Him He’s Avoidant?

Podcast Ep. 76: Curtailing Happiness?, Over-Apologising, Should I Tell Him He’s Avoidant?

Welcome to another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 76, I cover: Waiting for the other happiness shoe to drop: I talk about why sometimes after being very impacted by something and struggling to recover, we can feel as if the happier we allow...
You Can Be Happier, But Not If You Force It

You Can Be Happier, But Not If You Force It

Scanning through multiple emails from the last few months, I noticed an interesting theme in reader and listener stories: the pursuit of happiness and the trouble that people get into along the way, which then results in questioning why they’re not happy,...