Waiting for the other happiness shoe to drop: I talk about why sometimes after being very impacted by something and struggling to recover, we can feel as if the happier we allow ourselves to be, the harder we will fall, and so we curtail our happiness as a self-protective measure.
Over-apologising: Find yourself almost apologising for breathing or apologising even when you haven’t done anything wrong? I talk about why we have this people pleasing habit, why it’s demoralising, and how to start kicking the habit.
Transformative love: I talk about the couple of questions that we can ask ourselves about whether how we love is transforming us in a positive or negative way.
Listener Question: Should I contact him and try to tell him that he is worthy of love and avoidant?
What I Learned This Week: I’m learning that life takes things out of your hands and forces you to slow down or take a break and about how stepping back a bit gets you more energised.
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Thanks so much for answering my email on this podcast episode. (It was such an awesome, and much needed surprise!) Hearing your words and thoughts was such a big help and have guided me to see the situation more objectively and to ask myself important questions regarding why I want/wanted to be with this person, despite his unavailability. I’ve also read and re-read your book Mr. Unavailable, and it’s been such a huge help! Really, thanks so much!
-E
PS-I will also email you just in case you don’t see this comment 😉
NATALIE
on 27/02/2017 at 3:23 pm
You’re very welcome Evelyn. I’m glad to hear that you’re making progress with this. This is one of those situations that’s a big wake-up call to look out for #1–yes, that would be you!
Shirely
on 13/03/2017 at 1:04 pm
Hello Natalie,
Can you please help me by pointing out the podcast on how to deal with a bossy coworker who constantly tell you how to do your job at work.
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Hi Natalie,
Thanks so much for answering my email on this podcast episode. (It was such an awesome, and much needed surprise!) Hearing your words and thoughts was such a big help and have guided me to see the situation more objectively and to ask myself important questions regarding why I want/wanted to be with this person, despite his unavailability. I’ve also read and re-read your book Mr. Unavailable, and it’s been such a huge help! Really, thanks so much!
-E
PS-I will also email you just in case you don’t see this comment 😉
You’re very welcome Evelyn. I’m glad to hear that you’re making progress with this. This is one of those situations that’s a big wake-up call to look out for #1–yes, that would be you!
Hello Natalie,
Can you please help me by pointing out the podcast on how to deal with a bossy coworker who constantly tell you how to do your job at work.