Healthy Boundaries Are as Much for You as They Are for Everyone Else

One of the mistakes many make in trying to have boundaries is seeing them solely as a means of guiding and directing or even ruling others. Boundaries are for us first and foremost. Others know our line when we know it. If someone isn’t being boundaried, continuing to...

About Ignoring Discomfort and Needs Because We’re Hoping They’re the One

When we’re not used to letting our real selves hang out, voicing our needs, and creating healthy boundaries, it’s not unusual to assume that if we’re really into someone and we have ‘so much in common’, the rest should take of itself. In reality, that’s not how humans...

Can Casual Relationships Ever Be Healthy? Yes, Sometimes.

Engaging in casual relationships as a booster or something in between a breakup and starting over in a new relationship is highly common. Thanks to dating apps (and sites), cultural shifts in dating and freedom of expression over the last couple of decades, and how...

‘Keeping the Peace’ Just Might Be Hurting Your Emotional Wellbeing

Many people who don’t have self-esteem that they can rely on often consider themselves to be keepers of the peace. There’s just one not-so-small problem: their actions destroy their inner peace. Keeping the peace is often code for keeping it zipped when you want to...

How To Cultivate and Promote Respect in Intimate Relationships

Respecting yourself and others in your intimate relationships means that while you strive to express your feelings and opinions, you won’t clobber your partner (or loved ones) with them. Honesty is the truth with respect. Being willing to admit when you’ve made a...