The story isn’t the same as the truth
Don’t get too caught up in the story. When you’ve experienced hurt, loss and disappointment, it’s easy to become swaddled in the security blanket of the pain. You get used to telling the story in a particular way. And then you repeat it, again and again, and...Love isn’t a reward for being a good person, and we don’t like this
There’s this really pervasive belief that everything that does or doesn’t happen in our life comes down to worthiness and effort. It’s why when we don’t get what we need, want or expect, we default to the reasoning habit of blaming it on not being ‘good enough’. On...Doubting that a loving relationship is attainable
A pattern of being with emotionally unavailable people can make it challenging to keep the faith that you will enjoy a mutually fulfilling relationship with a loving partner one day. It’s easy to start wondering if the relationship you desire is unattainable. This is...Self-esteem means acknowledging all of you, not just your supposed shortcomings
When we judge ourselves harshly, we come from this place of not being ‘good enough’. As a result of this, while sometimes we’re aware of our perfectionism, often, we’re not. We assume that because we feel inadequate that ‘obviously’...
