You’re seeking the feeling, not the thing

Every last thing that humans do is about our attempts to meet our needs. Because how well our needs are being met is communicated via our feelings, they’re emotional needs. There is this tendency for us to attach ourselves to fixed outcomes, goals, markers of...

We don’t need to give away power to be, do and have what we want

Sometimes we set goals that are rooted in someone else’s actions, not ours. We decide that we want something. Rather than think about the actionable steps and the specific nature of the desire, we first identify a vague(ish) goal. Example: I want to be loved. I...
Podcast Ep. 89: I Am 40

Podcast Ep. 89: I Am 40

On this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about turning 40 and why a rough week where I struggled with grief and confusion, caused me to hear the words, ‘I am here’. I explain why, in a number of respects, I’d forgotten that I wasn’t...

Podcast Ep. 58: Tense Times, Family Arrangements Stress, Over-Commitment To Goals

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 56, I cover: The world doesn’t work on rules: It’s been a tense time and some people have found the last few months very triggering. I talk about how feeling as if the world...
Podcast Ep. 50: Getting Paid What You’re Worth, Knowing When To Fold, Means Goals

Podcast Ep. 50: Getting Paid What You’re Worth, Knowing When To Fold, Means Goals

It’s time for another episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. In episode 50–yeah baby! It’s the big five-o!–I cover: Getting paid what you’re worth: Earlier this week I wrote about the vicious cycle of undervaluing yourself and I got me...