Perfectionism Makes Us Feel Unworthy and Blocks Loving Relationships

Perfectionism, the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection, is soul-destroying and debilitating, sucking the joy out of everything from our work to our creative endeavours to our relationships. There are over eight billion people on the planet, and not one...

Problematic and Non-Apologies: Why We’re Still Upset Despite Receiving An Apology

When someone harms or upsets us and they then apologise, it’s easy to assume that’s the end of it. Problem solved. Let’s move on. We’ve learned that getting an apology is what matters. So when we sometimes feel more hurt and upset after...

We Don’t Have to Judge Our Own or Other People’s Confidence Levels So Much

People often assume I’m extroverted and that I’m a Confident Person. They mention my public speaking, writing this blog for almost seventeen years, and my love of dancing and letting loose to 90s R&B or dance. I’m quite introverted though. I also...

Explaining boundary issues to a date will only violate you further

Nobody knows what your boundaries are until you convey them through your actions.So many people have asked me variations of “I’ve been on a few dates with someone and I really like them, but they’ve busted my boundaries a few times. What should I say...

Podcast Ep. 227: Let’s Stop Pressing The Reset Button

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I revisit the topic of pressing the ‘reset button’. This is where somebody attempts to reset the relationship to a point they feel most comfortable with by behaving as if the past...