From Emotional Shutdown to Self-Compassion: My Self-Care Evolution

Over the last two decades, I’ve learned to pay attention to signs from my body and my life that I need attention and/or that I need to ask for or seek additional help and support from safe sources. This attitude is a dramatic shift for me because for the 28 years...

When Comfort Becomes a Trap: Rethinking How We Soothe Our Emotional Discomfort

Feeling worse when you experience the onset of certain emotions or feeling as if you’re trying to anaesthetize feelings you’re attempting to repress, or feeling at a loss as to what to do when you need comfort and support, means that, like many of us, you haven’t...

Podcast Ep. 267: About Riding the Rollercoaster of Worst-Case-Scenario Anxiety

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how potentially scary news about a relative’s health ended up teaching me some powerful lessons about managing anxiety and worry. Are you a best/better-case scenario or worst-case...

It’s not someone else’s ‘job’ to make us happy

If we make it someone else’s job to make us happy, we assign them a role, and with that comes obligations, expectations and responsibilities. It also creates a transactional aspect. If we think it’s someone else’s job to create feelings in us,...

Stop shaming you for having needs

Acknowledging that you have needs is like acknowledging that you breathe.  Do you know when you won’t have needs? When you’re dead.  From the moment we are born until we die, we have needs. And every single last thing that we do is about meeting a...