I had a conversation with a friend the other day. She was complaining to me that she wanted a boyfriend but couldn’t find one. “Have you been looking?” I asked.

“Yes, but none of the guys here fit my criteria. They are either of Spanish origins, under-educated (she has a Master’s), non Christian, have a baby, too old for me, too young for me, not attractive to me, too short, don’t have their own car, not intelligent enough or still live with their mothers,” she responded.

I found a hard time believing her. There cannot be something wrong with every single guy in Miami. It’s frickin’ Florida!! The sun shines all the time and all those buff, tanned bodies are just walking around waiting to get picked up. Of course, we have totally opposite ways of looking at it.

No matter where I’ve lived, from a village with only 2 stoplights, to a metropolitan city whose male populance is predominantly gay, I’ve found a dating pool that soon had me juggling dates. There is no such thing as a city with no date-able men. Nada! It’s just an excuse created by women who have either given up searching or haven’t even dated at all. Do you expect Mr. Right to just plop into your lap while you are at home eating Bonbons?

I’ve always been a big believer in having a Master List. But when your Master List rules out 99.9% of the male populance, please don’t complain to me that you are having a hard time meeting men. ‘Nuff said.

You cannot meet the guy that’s right for you if you don’t put yourself out there. You cannot put yourself out there if you don’t date. You cannot date if you keep rejecting every single guy that asks you out. I’m not saying date every Tom, Dick and Harry—but at least, cut these guys a little slack. Have a coffee date at least, you never know, you might hit it off!

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