It’s time for The Baggage Reclaim Sessions to go on a break until the new year, so I thought I’d speak on the rather pertinent topic of acceptance. Every time we find ourselves wrestling with thoughts and problems that we’ve already grappled with, it’s because we’re still not accepting something. Or, we’ve forgotten the truth that we previously accepted.
Why can’t they be like _______? Or, if it were me, I would have ________.
It’s not fair. This shouldn’t be happening.
I can’t believe it.
I don’t want to feel this way.
But they are how they are. They’re not like the person we want them to be, and they’re definitely not us. Yes, it is happening. In fact, it’s already happened. And while we don’t want to feel this way, we do.
When I haven’t felt able to change my outer circumstances, I’ve gone inward. And when I’m unsure of what to do to change how I feel inside, I’ve done my best to change my outer circumstances without trying to influence and controllable the uncontrollable.
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Natalie, I find it difficult to share this level of material you produce on a primary level, bc people lack the self-honestly, but when I pass it along to people in my life in pertient situations, you are literally educating all those who can’t take it in at face value. I am continually using these terms and last night, had to use the dripfeed term unfortunately. eg. ‘you’re dripfeeding me, bro’. The results are amazing – people immediately are deweaponized and grateful to be put on blast.
Happy Holidays <3
NATALIE
on 01/01/2020 at 6:32 pm
Goodness, thank you so much, Lauren. I’m grinning. Happy New Year to you!
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Natalie, I find it difficult to share this level of material you produce on a primary level, bc people lack the self-honestly, but when I pass it along to people in my life in pertient situations, you are literally educating all those who can’t take it in at face value. I am continually using these terms and last night, had to use the dripfeed term unfortunately. eg. ‘you’re dripfeeding me, bro’. The results are amazing – people immediately are deweaponized and grateful to be put on blast.
Happy Holidays <3
Goodness, thank you so much, Lauren. I’m grinning. Happy New Year to you!