Podcast Ep. 193: The Landmarks of Boundaried Communication

When we embark on creating healthier boundaries, it means that we have to put our needs, expectations, desires, feelings and opinions about our preferences, principles and priorities into action. We have to communicate through our actions, intentions and words what is...
The Pandemic Will Teach Us to Be More Boundaried

The Pandemic Will Teach Us to Be More Boundaried

In my teens, I would sometimes be in situations where boys pressed to go further than I wanted. I learned how to steer busy hands back up north and to try to make it all as nicey-nice as possible so they didn’t feel wounded and I didn’t feel threatened....

Podcast Ep 192: I Guilt You So Much!

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how so many of us have got into a cycle of feeling bad about ourselves. Guilt has become the currency of our relationships, and it’s bankrupting our self-esteem to keep doing...
You’re just not *that* intimate: No boundaries, no intimacy

You’re just not *that* intimate: No boundaries, no intimacy

I talk to a hell of a lot of people who are, how shall we say it, boundary averse. It’s not because they’re shady. They most certainly don’t want to have issues with people. No, it’s because they see boundaries as threatening. They think that...

How To Say No: 12 Phrases & Scripts That Won’t Make the Sky Fall Down

Something I help clients and members do is understand, nurture and honour their needs, boundaries, bandwidth and values. A crucial part of this is learning how to say no (and show it). Although no is a complete sentence, so many of us struggle to find the words to say...