Love isn’t making you ‘crazy’; reality-check the relationship

An easy trap to fall into is reasoning that the dramatic shift in your behaviour, being consumed by someone, and feeling the acute turmoil of the relationship, is a measure of and response to your love for this person. But it’s not love making you feel, think...

Let your family get on with their own drama

Family can be wonderful (lucky you if this is your experience, haha!). If, however, you experienced boundary issues, trauma and neglect, you have to be careful of getting drawn into what basically boils down to bullshit (BS) and drama. Family will play the Guilt Card,...
Picking and choosing our battles

Picking and choosing our battles

An acquaintance frequently complained about their partner and their almighty rows over everything from using the ‘good towels’, forgetting to take the bins out, whose way was the ‘right’ way to do things, to how one or the other hadn’t...
Podcast Ep. 141: Sometimes we’re over-empathetic instead of empathetic and boundaried

Podcast Ep. 141: Sometimes we’re over-empathetic instead of empathetic and boundaried

One of the reasons why we feel stuck in situations is due to overempathy. This is when we put ourselves in what we think is the other person’s shoes and then project our own stuff on to it, including our agenda. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim...

Birthday thoughts: 36 things that I’ve learned about life, love and self-esteem

On Sunday I turned 36, which I celebrated with a party on Saturday. As it turned midnight, I was singing Return of the Mack on the karaoke machine (we have a Lucky Voice set which means we can have impromptu karaoke sessions) plus earlier in the evening, one of my...