When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you

When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you

If you’ve stayed in a relationship long past its sell-by date, you worried about what you’ve ‘put in’ and focused on getting a return on investment. Instead of thinking about who [the object of your affections] consistently is and the present,...
The BS Diet – Why you need to stop denying, minimising, and rationalising

The BS Diet – Why you need to stop denying, minimising, and rationalising

Every time a friend has spoken to me about her frustrations with her boyfriend over the past year, she keeps mentioning him smoking “a bit of weed” and his drinking habits and then quickly playing them down. Someone else I know is shrinking and...
Can you elevator pitch your relationship issues or breakup? The importance of summarising and identifying issues

Can you elevator pitch your relationship issues or breakup? The importance of summarising and identifying issues

I remember several years ago after a breakup that people would ask why we’d ended and I’d launch into the full tale. After a few weeks of matinee and evening performances, I noticed that the explanation time was shrinking from A Very Long Time, to several...