People-pleasing is like creating debt and then expecting others to pay it off
When your decision to remain in an unhealthy or unfulfilling relationship or situation is about ‘investment’ and attempting to recoup a loss, you wind up making the person/people indebted to you. There becomes a sense of entitlement. This is when you have...The trouble with blending in
The moment that we seek to blend in or to appeal to the other party in an effort to be who we imagine would be the ‘right’ person for them, we’ve just blocked a loving relationship. Something we forget when we discard who we are is that by blending in to be like...
We don’t realise how much we missed ourselves until we’re out of the painful situation
Each time I come out of a relationship or situation where, consciously or not, I’ve sought validation, I’m always relieved. Sure, in the immediate aftermath, that relief might be mixed in with hurt and anger, but I focus on the release from the...
Podcast Ep.59: Why Did We Break Up?–A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss
It’s time for another episode of Why Did We Break Up?. Swept off her feet by her co-worker Andrew, when Zoe’s 23-year marriage ended abruptly, she moved in with him weeks later, not realising the extent of the gambling debt that he’d amassed. Over the next six years,...
