The More Validation You Seek, The More Unworthy You Feel

If you’ve ever tried to convince someone about you, you will be all too familiar with that feeling of becoming unconvinced about yourself. Seeking validation is the equivalent of being and doing things that say, ‘Please, tell me who I am. Tell me I’m worth it. Tell me...
To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

To Stop Feeling Stuck After a Breakup, You Will Need To Grieve Your Old Identity

When a significant relationship ends, or even when you step away from a job or career that you thought was ‘it’, you grieve the loss. Even though you may be aware that the relationship/marriage/job/career wasn’t working and all of the reasons why, you can still wind...

Podcast Ep. 238: Be Careful Who You Tell Your Problems To

They say a problem shared is a problem halved, but not always. When you tell your problems to the wrong person it can become a problem multiplied. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why you have to be careful who you tell your...

People Pleasing is Like Creating Debt and Then Expecting Others to Pay It Off 

When your decision to remain in an unhealthy or unfulfilling relationship or situation is about ‘investment’ and attempting to recoup a loss, you wind up making the person/people indebted to you. There becomes a sense of entitlement. This is when you have...

The trouble with blending in

The moment that we seek to blend in or to appeal to the other party in an effort to be who we imagine would be the ‘right’ person for them, we’ve just blocked a loving relationship. Something we forget when we discard who we are is that by blending in to be like...