If you’re always The Giver, others have to play the role of The Taker

by | Healthier Relationships

When we feel shortchanged, marginalised, underappreciated and taken advantage of in our relationships, there is this sense that this is not how we ‘should’ be feeling given ‘everything we’ve done’. It’s like, I’ve been...

Giving To Get Along

by | Boundaries

People pleasing means that sometimes, possibly often, we confuse compromising ourselves and avoiding conflict with ‘giving’. In fact, much of what we regard as ‘keeping the peace’ equates to destroying our inner peace. Giving is the free...
The Tension Relief of Procrastination

The Tension Relief of Procrastination

by | Patterns & Habits

There’s this common misconception that we humans put things off, delay, become overwhelmed or are indecisive because we are lazy. Social conditioning taught us that everything is a matter of whether we are “enough”–worthy enough, trying hard enough, good...