Love Isn’t a Reward for Being a Good Person, and We Don’t Like This

There’s this really pervasive belief that everything that does or doesn’t happen in our life comes down to worthiness and effort. It’s why when we don’t get what we need, want or expect, we default to the reasoning habit of blaming it on not being ‘good enough’. On...

Stop shaming you for having needs

Acknowledging that you have needs is like acknowledging that you breathe.  Do you know when you won’t have needs? When you’re dead.  From the moment we are born until we die, we have needs. And every single last thing that we do is about meeting a...