selling yourself short in relationships Archives

It’s a bad deal if you have to compromise yourself

Before I was aware of my people-pleasing ways, I would always find a reason to justify compromising myself. It was a “great opportunity” or it seemed “urgent”. Maybe this person could be the “love of my life”. It’s best not to...

Feeling like someone took the better version of you when they left

by NATALIE | Happiness & Self-Esteem

Sometimes, what we miss the most about someone is who we thought we were or who we became when around them. In our mind, we became someone with possibilities. We blossomed into the most attractive version of us. And now, they’re out of our life, and we feel lost...

Are You An Over-Giver? People Who Give Too Much

by NATALIE | Boundaries

Many stories about unhealthy relationships or situations where it’s not mutual but there are attempts to make it mutual and ‘level’ are about one person not knowing when to back off and stop/reduce giving. All of these people end up extremely hurt,...

You Just Don’t Have That Kind Of Power: You Haven’t ‘Made’ Someone Be Or Do Something

by NATALIE | The BS Diet

When you experience problems but are sidetracked with your own issues regarding how you feel about yourself or are clinging hard to beliefs that you’re stuck on, not only do you fail to compute the rather compelling topline data, but how you respond to the...

Quit Seeking A ‘ Rejection Retraction’

by NATALIE | Letting Go

Every day I hear tales of people who are completely overwhelmed by rejection or repeatedly throwing themselves under the same rejection bus because they don’t want to deal with the pain of accepting someone’s choice in another person or their treatment of...