Empathy and Allowing Ourselves to Say No Mustn’t Be Based on Status

If you believe you have to like someone in order to empathise, your version of “empathy”, of recognising others, comes from your sense of whether you like and value them. That’s a status judgement. A part of you, on some level, considers whether you...

Podcast Ep. 274: Listen to a Chapter from The Joy of Saying No

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I give listeners an exclusive sneak peek by reading the first chapter from my forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No.  It didn’t make sense to me that I devoted so much time, energy, effort, and emotion to...

Podcast Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems

When we sense or know something that means we need to change course but we go ahead anyway, we’re always self-critical in the aftermath. We beat ourselves up for not having listened to ourselves. But a dilemma so many of us struggle with is knowing when we...
Boundaries and Why You Need to Watch Out for “Well-Meaning” People

Boundaries and Why You Need to Watch Out for “Well-Meaning” People

The more I talk to people about healthy boundaries, the more I see that many of us humans are hung up on being perceived as well-meaning. So we avoid creating healthy boundaries that we think will make us look bad. We also wrestle with ourselves about conveying our...
If You’re Still Figuring Out Boundaries, Self-Care, *Life*, Welcome to the Club

If You’re Still Figuring Out Boundaries, Self-Care, *Life*, Welcome to the Club

You are normal if you are still figuring out: Your limits. What self-care is and looks like for you and prioritising it. What does and doesn’t work for you. Your needs and how to meet and communicate them. How to be self-compassionate and self-forgiving. What...