Not Following Through With Your Values Is Like Washing Your Front but Not Your Back

Not Following Through With Your Values Is Like Washing Your Front but Not Your Back

I talk to people who are keen to evolve their relationships and attempting to get to grips with values, and they’ve had at least one of these three habits: Making their partner into a one-trick pony Looking for a ‘thing’ to hook the relationship to Not being thorough...
Advice Wednesday: Am I ‘The Bridge’ For The Christian Woman I Share So Much In Common With?

Advice Wednesday: Am I ‘The Bridge’ For The Christian Woman I Share So Much In Common With?

Kevin asks: Two weeks ago, a female employee, 21 (I’m 29), who I’d become good acquaintances with, handed in her notice. Prior to this, I’d never considered a relationship with her. That day, there was a big concert for a Christian worship band that we’re both fans...

We Must Own Ourselves So That We Stop Giving In To Peer Pressure

I vividly remember my teenage self reassuring me that once I became an adult, I wouldn’t have to contend with peer pressure, that sense of being influenced to change our values, attitudes and behaviours in order to essentially follow the herd so that we are...
It’s Just The One Chocolate Bar. It’s Just The One Values and Boundaries Bust. Or is it?

It’s Just The One Chocolate Bar. It’s Just The One Values and Boundaries Bust. Or is it?

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been meeting BR readers and a hot topic has been values, namely, realising that what they ultimately ended up doing in a host of situations did not reflect their true intentions, values, and basically who they are in the main. They each...
Acknowledge your blind spots around compatibility

Acknowledge your blind spots around compatibility

Have you ever felt as if someone was going to be or do certain things only to be surprised about how far off base you are? While this may have come about due to proclamations and promises on their part, if your hopes and expectations stemmed from your own vision of...
Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values

Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values

It might not feel like a big leap in thinking to assume that someone who shares similar interests to you also shares similar values. In practice, though, it’s an enormous one. It ignores the fact that someone can have a fundamentally different character and set of...