Why You’re Catching Feelings When It’s Supposed to Be ‘Just’ Casual Sex

Why You’re Catching Feelings When It’s Supposed to Be ‘Just’ Casual Sex

Sometimes we want to have sex, but understandably, we might not want to wait until we’re in a relationship for that to happen. In theory, we should be able to sleep with someone without it needing to be complicated by getting to know them too much (or at all),...
Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

I hear from so many people who have an ex they ‘randomly’ hear from out of the blue, typically via email or text. And these exes range from people they went on barely a handful of dates with, to people they dated but who didn’t feel ready for a...

Podcast Ep. 208: Scope Creep Makes Your Boundaries Beep

This week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is all about scope creep, when the expectations, requirements, goals, vision, etc., shift beyond what was originally agreed. While it’s a project management term, not only is scope creep rife in the...
Are you in a casual relationship with your values?

Are you in a casual relationship with your values?

We tend to feel baffled when a date or few that seemed so promising doesn’t progress to a relationship. I think this is especially so when we feel as if we were on The Best Date Ever TM or the person intimated or outright stated that they were looking for more...
Podcast Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships

Podcast Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships

I mentioned my love of the TV adaption of Sally Rooney’s novel, Normal People, on Instagram Stories last week. Boy, did I get a lot of replies! People were ‘shook’ by the portrayal of a casual (and sometimes secret) relationship mixed with a...