Making sense of people seemingly being unhappy with your happiness

Not everyone is going to be happy for you when you are. People you will expect to share in your joy, to be pleased for you, to acknowledge whatever’s happened, might not. They’ll maybe like your Facebook or Instagram post(s) but say absolutely nothing at...

There’s no need to be ‘baggage-free’ to move forward or have what we want

So many of us hold ourselves back from changing career, going after what we want or showing up to intimate relationships. For instance, I see people try to achieve the perfect amount of healing before dating again or at all. Others try to get a gazillion degrees or...

Your Growth or Boundaries Might ‘Upset’ Somebody, and That’s Ok

One of the chief arguments for avoiding boundaries is the fear of hurting other people’s feelings and the potential to invite conflict and criticism. As a result, when we embark on anything that might cause us to evolve and basically be different to what people...

Awareness of our patterns gives us the space to be better than before

Go easy on yourself. There isn’t a manual for how to do life. You didn’t wake up on your eighteenth birthday to a genie sitting at your bedside with a glowing manual. “Hello, welcome to adulthood. This is a timeline of everything that’s going to...
What if your only resolution this year was loving yourself more?

What if your only resolution this year was loving yourself more?

In the first few weeks of every year of the almost seventeen that I’ve been blogging about relationships and human behaviour, I hear from so many people who have essentially crashed and burned on the disappointment of not living up to their expectations of the...